The Art of Flirting

The best flirting technique for both men and women to remember is... Confidence is sexy. 

Display it when you walk into a bar, party or club. You need to ooze confidence. People should feel positive energy emanating from you. Would you want to meet someone who appears to be disagreeable or in a bad mood? 

Scan the room with a pleasant look on your face, people should feel you are approachable. If you see someone attractive, make eye contact and smile. Act interested... but not too interested. You want to convey you are comfortable in your skin and not desperate. 

Think Long - Think Wrong

Guys when you see an attractive woman, spend a few minutes across the room making eye contact and giving your best smile but do not linger. Walk up to her only if she returns the smile.  

You need to introduce yourself and show your confidence within. After the introduction, the hardest thing to master is keeping the conversation going. 

Men should ask ladies about their interests, likes and dislikes. Ask about her work or school. This shows her you're interested in her as a person and not just a hook up. You are not shallow or self-centered.

A man that only talks about himself is very unappealing. Eye contact while talking to a woman is essential. Don’t stand there gawking at her cleavage or butt. If you look below her neck, you are sending a message that you are more interested in her body than in her personality. 

While this may be okay with some women, it doesn’t fly with most. A guy should try to be funny and make a few well-placed jokes. A woman likes a man who can make her laugh but remember not too much you're not in a comedy club. 

Ladies Should Know 

Women flirt differently than men. Granted it does not always take much to get a man’s attention. However, sometimes they are not as clued into the subtle flirting gestures that women exhibit.
So what is the best way to flirt with a man and get his attention? Ladies tend to stay in a group in social setting. Guys can be intimidated by approaching a woman in front of her friends. Ladies remember this. 

After you connect with a smile, give him an opening to you. If you want the man to make the first move, give him a chance by stepping away from the group. This will give your intended the opening he needs to go for it. 

Remember compliments are a big form of flirting. Men respond very well to compliments because it gives him a positive signal you are receptive to his efforts. If you want to emphasize your compliment, lightly touch his hand, arm or shoulder. A touch can let a guy know that you are definitely interested just don't overdo it. The key to all of this is to keep thing flirty, fun and stress free.