Speed Dating Benefits for Men

5 Top Speed Dating Tips for Men

Okay Guys, let's clarify what speed dating is. First of all, it is not a 15 minute impromptu conversation you had with a woman you chatted up while waiting for your always running late friend at the Cheesecake Factory the other evening.

It is a great way to meet a number of people at one time and decide which one you might want to see again. It "date" only lasts four - seven minutes, depending on the Speed dating service. The women stay seated, the men move from table to table. In this time you ask questions to get to know one another, then decide at the end who you want to see outside of this dating arena. 

Sound simple enough? It is, but there are tips that can make this experience more effective when looking for Ms. Right. 

Dress to Impress

This sounds like a given, but some people believe this is a casual setting and dress too casual. Remember, you are still trying to find someone you might like to pursue a relationship with. I’m not suggesting a suit and tie but wear something that shows women you care about your appearance. 

Have Confidence

One of the biggest complaints from women after the event is that most of the men did not communicate or had poor communication skills. This may not have truly been the case. It is quite possible the men were just too nervous or shy. You need confidence going into a speed dating event. If confidence is the issue when at a table, turn the conversation around by asking her a question.

    Open with the Unusual

You have to remember that there are usually 20 to 30 men at speed dating events. If you are unlucky enough to be at or near the end of the line, all the women you are about to meet have already answered the same questions over and over again. "Where are you from?" "What do you do for fun?" "What do you do for a living?"

If you want to stand out from the crowd, ask her something she hasn't heard. "What is your favorite childhood memory?" "If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be?" "What are your dreams for the future?" You can still learn a lot about a person with these questions.

Don’t talk about your past relationship

A lot of men make the mistake of telling women about their last relationship, how their ex broke their heart. This makes for a depressing five minutes and completely ruins any chances they may have at getting themselves a date. Be interesting with a twinkling in your eye and a grin on your face.

Dating After the Event

Did you know that 60 percent of ladies attend speed dating events with their friends, while 90 percent of men go alone? So what does this mean for you after the event? Let's say you have 10 matches which equals 10 possible dates. Do not line all of these dates up at once. If you call all 10 at once, lining up dates for different nights of the week, you may be making plans with a group of friends from the event. 

Believe me, the friends will compare notes and view you as a player. You will be considered “The Bad Guy.” Instead, pick the "one" woman you liked the most and call only her first. Hold off on the other ladies until you find out if she attended the event with friends.

Speed dating is an inexpensive convenient option for those looking to meet new people and possibly finding someone to enjoy a few nice dates. The best thing about speed dating services is that it allows you to screen and search for the ideal person that best suits your interests while remaining pretty anonymous.